Running Shoes

In honor of International Women's Day, I Running Shoes by Frederic Lipp. It is about a young girl named Sophy who secretly yearns to go to school to learn to read and write. However, she and her mother live in a poor Cambodian village where the closest school is 8 kilometers (about 5 miles) away over difficult rocky road and she has only sandals to protect her feet. When she is given a pair of running shoes she is determined she can use them to get her education. She starts out before dawn and runs the entire way. Only boys attend the one-room school-house, and at first she is ridiculed. Yet, the teacher allows her to stay and eventually she earns the respect of her fellow pupils. By the end of the year Sophy has learned to read and write and dreams of becoming a teacher so she can teach the children in her village.

The plot is very minimalist. There's not much more detail in the book, than in my summary. It was brief enough that both my children were able to follow along with ease, although I imagine the larger message was lost on my three year old. The illustrations by Jason Gaillard are replete with beautiful detail, bringing the rural Cambodian village to life. Both my children and I ended the story thirsting for more. The fictional Sophy had become real to us and I half-way wished the author had written a chapter book so that we delve even deeper into her world. However, the book is a perfect length for young children and also does a marvelous job of depicting the very real challenges that girls like Sophy face all over the world in a way that's age-appropriate and ultimately hopeful.

Afterward I asked my six year old why he thinks that only boys were allowed to go to Sophy's school. He thought it was because they wanted to be mean. I explained how an education gives people more opportunities for jobs and a future, but that in many parts of the world people feel that only men should get those opportunities while women should stay home and raise children. Then I asked him if it would be better for Sophy's village if she had not been allowed to go to school and he determined that it would be worse for them because then she could never open a school and teach the other children. I pointed out that when opportunities for women are limited, that it hurts not only the women themselves, but that their whole community suffers. Finally, I asked him to think about how even little things like a pair of shoes can change the future for an entire village and that it doesn't always require something big to make a difference.

Don't Call Me Special: A First Look At Disability

Don't Call me Special: A First Look at Disability by Pat Thomas explains what both physical and mental disabilities are and how disabilities may require people to use adaptive equipment or find different ways to do things in a way that is easy for young children to understand. It also cautions against making assumptions about what people with disabilities can or cannot do and teaches that children with disabilities can often find ways to participate in sports and most other activities. The book points out that everyone has some things they do well and other areas they struggle in and that people with disabilities are the same way. Someone in a wheelchair may still excel at shooting hoops or in art or any number of areas. Kids are instructed not to label people with disabilities as 'special' because they feel it sets them apart and they would rather be treated like anyone else. Basically, it teaches kids that people with disabilities are people first and foremost.

Even though the book was very clear in teaching that people with disabilities are able to participate in sports and other activities, my children still had a hard time grasping this. After reading it I asked my oldest if he thought whether someone in a wheelchair would be able to play basketball or soccer. To my surprise, he still answered no. To help him visualize it, I showed him the following videos:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xZNuwOy8z-E
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zmolw95_v6w
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Vxjh6KJi8E

Yes, I made my children watch a beer commercial. It actually sparked a great conversation. I pointed out that since all of the players but one could walk, that they had made a very important choice. They could have chosen to leave their friend in the wheelchair out because he was different and they didn't want to change the way they play, but instead they thought of a solution where everyone could play together. My boys decided that if they were the person in the wheelchair, they would be really want to be included. Overall, I'd say that this book is a good start to the conversation, but I think that the videos really helped to reinforce the concepts. I'd recommend using both together.

And Tango Makes Three

Since Valentines Days was this weekend, I felt it appropriate to read a love story of sorts. And Tango Makes Three by Justin Richardson and Peter Parnell is an adorable tale about two male penguins, Roy and Silo, who fall in love and build their nest together. They are just like all the other penguin couples except for the fact that they cannot lay eggs and have children. At first, they try unsuccessfully to hatch a rock in their nest, but then the zookeeper gives them a real egg. The egg hatches and Roy and Silo become caring fathers for their baby, Tango. Best of all, this is actually a true about a family of penguins in the Central Park Zoo. I understand that Roy, Silo, and Tango are all still alive and well (although unfortunately Roy and Silo have since split up).

My children both enjoyed hearing this story. It is well-written with an interesting plot and not overtly preachy. I used the book to springboard into a brief discussion about human families as well. My three year old was able to understand that while he has one mommy and one daddy that Tango has two daddies instead. We also talked about how some human families also have two daddies or two mommies. With my six-year-old we were able to take things a step farther. We talked about whether Roy, Silo, and Tango are still a family even though Tango's egg was laid by another penguin and what makes a 'real' family. I highly recommend this story as a means to introduce young children to the concept of nontraditional families.

Elena's Serenade

The other day I took my kids into the dentist. As my kindergartener was discussing the visit afterward, I realized that he'd confused the hygienist with the dentist so I reminded him that the hygienist (a woman) was the one who had cleaned his teeth and the dentist (a man) was the one who had showed us his x-rays. After thinking for a minute he queries, "So boys are dentists and girls are hygienists?" This surprised me, given that we've already had several discussions about this sort of thing, but it seems we can always use a reminder. Elena's Serenade by Campbell Geeslin is a fantastical tale about a young Mexican girl who dreams of becoming a glass blower like her papa, but is told that girls cannot make glass. When Elena sets off on a journey to meet the master glass blowers in Monterrey, she discovers she is able to make glass like no one else, using music to bring the glass to life. The story is rich with Mexican culture and tradition and the vibrant illustrations by Mexican folk artist, Ana Juan, give this story life.

My sons were enthralled by this magical tale and afterward we discussed that while this is obviously not a true story, it still talks about true things. I asked them if they thought Elena would have ever discovered her magic abilities if she had listened to the people who told her that girls cannot be glass blowers. We talked about whether it's true that girls cannot accomplish the same things as boys and how it affects girls when the people don't believe in them. Then we touched upon the other parts of the story that are true. My boys learned that Mexico is a real country and that Monterrey is a place that really was famous at one time for their glass blowers who made bottles. To top it off we watched this video clip illustrating how modern glass blowers blow and shape glass. This book both challenges sexism and celebrates Mexican culture, yet it is entertaining first and foremost. The plot is fun and imaginative on it's own with the added bonus of imparting a valuable lesson.

Your Body Belongs to You

I grew up in a household where I was frequently told that everything I had, including my very self, was actually the property of my parents. I am vehemently opposed to this line of thinking. It's extremely degrading to children to be constantly referred to as property, and actually predisposes them to abuse. Children need to know that they have rights, that their boundaries can and should be respected, and that they are the owners of their bodies. Given that, this week's book appealed to me simply by reading the title, Your Body Belongs to You by Cornelia Maude Spelman. The book starts out with a note to parents explaining that when we force any unwanted touch, even affectionate touching like hugs, kisses, tickling, etc, it sends the message to children that they do not have the right to set boundaries or have their bodies respected. The story itself is written extremely simply. It's well suited to a preschool audience, but I wouldn't recommend it for kids over the age of five. It teaches that many touches are good and that others are not. Kids are told that their private parts are where their bathing suits cover and that no one should touch their private parts except for doctors or people helping them in the bathroom. They are also told that it's okay to refuse even good touches by saying, "No, not right now please," and to tell a grown-up if someone touches them in a way they don't like. I do wish that the book took the concept a step further and talked to kids about the importance of respecting other people's boundaries too (a much needed lesson for this age group), but perhaps that would be too much information for really young kids.

I read this book to my 3 year old and afterward asked him what parts of his body are his private parts. I asked him whether anyone else is allowed to touch his private parts and emphasized no, not even mommy or daddy, not grandma or grandpa, or his teachers at school. I asked him what he will do if anyone tries to touch his private parts and he was able to remember that he needs to tell mommy and daddy. Then we played a short game where I would ask him for hugs and he got to decide whether to accept or to say, "No, not right now please." I have never forced affection onto my children to start with, but delighted in being able to tell me no and see his boundaries clearly respected. I did not read it to my 6 year old as I feel it's too simple for his level. He would likely find it babyish and I think that older kids benefit from more specific information anyway. However, I do feel my preschooler benefited from this story and would recommend it for this age group.

I am a Latter-Day Saint (Mormon)

I was raised Mormon and made a conscious decision to leave the faith as an adult. Given that, it may seem strange that I would choose a book to educate my children on Mormon beliefs, but the fact is that my children's grandparents, cousins, and other relatives from my side of the family still believe and practice. We also live in Utah so a good share of the friends and neighbors are Mormon as well and I feel like they should have a basic understanding of something that they're bound to encounter regularly.

Being Utah, there was a wide selection of books about Mormonism in the children's section, but the majority were written for a Mormon audience. I could only find one book written to explain Mormonism to non-Mormon children titled I am a Latter-day Saint (Mormon) by Gayla Wise. I found it to be adequate, but I didn't love it. I had  been hoping for something respectful, but objective, however this read more like a Mormon missionary would present information. I would have emphasized slightly different information and my son was didn't find it a particularly interesting read, but I'm not aware of any better resources. It did introduce my son to vocabulary that he's likely to hear, such as 'ward', 'preisthood', and 'general conference' and it talked a bit about how the church was formed and what Mormons believe. I would give this book a somewhat neutral rating. Not great, but not terrible either and I'm not aware of a better alternative.

Martin's Big Words: The Life of Dr Martin Luther King, Jr

In honor of Martin Luther King Day tomorrow I selected Martin's Big Words: The Life of Dr Martin Luther King by Doreen Rapport for this week's reading. It's a very brief biography and each page includes a direct quote from King himself. The Rosa Parks book that we read a couple weeks ago was more informative, but I actually felt that it was a bit too much for my kindergartener. This one was just right for his age level. It really just provides a bare bones outline of who Martin Luther King is, what he stood for, and how he died. It highlights a few of his notable accomplishments, but keeps it simple and brief. Best of all, each page is adorned with gorgeous illustrations by Bryan Collier. Every one of them could easily be exhibited in a fine art gallery. This book is a beautiful tribute to one of the finest men this country has ever known.

After reading I asked my son how things would have been different if Martin Luther King had promoted violence instead of peace. He decided that a lot more people would have been hurt. We then discussed how if Dr. King had solved problems with his fist, then his power would have ended with his death, but that his powerful words are still helping people today. This was a lovely read and absolutely perfect for introducing young children to the father of American civil rights.

Everyone Prays: Celebrating Faith Around the World

Everyone Prays: Celebrating Faith Around the World by Alexis York Lumbard is a book that illustrates the diversity that exists in various world religions. It does not really get into any specific beliefs or practices (beyond prayer), but it was written in a way that even my three-year-old was able to follow along and learn. Through colorful illustrations, children are shown that there are many different faiths and many different ways to pray. I liked that the book included several lesser known religions such as Sikhs and American Indians as well as the major ones. I also appreciated that the book did a decent job of highlighting some basic similarities between religions while also acknowledging the diversity that exists. It's very clear that while all religions pray, they do not all pray the same way. At the end, there are a couple of pages that offer more details about the various religions and illustrations. It's good information, but I feel it would have been more useful if it had been incorporated into a footnote on each page. I also wish there had been more of a balance between modern and traditional dress in the illustrations. The fact is that most Muslims, Buddhists, American Indians, etc. my children are likely to encounter will probably not look like the people in the illustrations, and I feel that's important for children to understand.

Still, I think this is a good start for introducing young children to world religion. It's not so much information that it overwhelms them, but it gives them a basic overview of religious diversity. After reading, I asked my children what religions that people we know are part of. My kindergartener was aware that many of the people we know are Mormons (though he didn't know the name for it) and also identified some Christian friends. He was surprised when I told him that one of his friends from preschool last year was Muslim. We talked about ways we can be respectful of other people's beliefs, such as when we are guests in their home and they want to bless the meal. I wouldn't recommend it for kids older than 7 or 8, but it's a good resource for younger kids.

If a Bus Could Talk: The Story of Rosa Parks

If a Bus Could Talk: The Story of Rosa Parks by Faith Ringgold tells the story of a young girl named Marcie who climbs aboard a magical, talking bus. Marcie learns that one of the seats is reserved for a special passenger named Rosa Parks and while they are waiting for her to board, the bus teaches Marcie about Rosa Park's life, her achievements, and her contribution to the black civil rights movement. At the end of the ride Marcie meets Rosa Parks herself and realizes that the other passengers on the bus are also prominent heroes for civil rights, such as Martin Luther King, Jr and Raymond Parks. The story ends with Marcie being dropped off at her school prepared to share all she has learned with her friends.

This was a cute story with lots of information. My kindergartener did find it interesting, although I glossed over a few parts of it. I imagine it would probably be best suited for slightly older kids although he still learned quite a bit. The book briefly mentions the Ku Klux Klan and some of the violent acts that were perpetrated against blacks (lynching, burning homes, etc) so it may be a bit frightening for some younger, more sensitive children. Afterward, my son and I discussed how it would have felt to grow up in a world where your rights are not respected. We talked about how much courage Rosa Parks had to do what she believed was right even though she knew it could be dangerous for her. And of course we talked about how even though we have made much progress because of people like Rosa Parks, that people are still discriminated against today because of the color of their skin and that we still need people who are brave enough to stand against it.

Introduction

Welcome to my blog! Here's a bit of information  in a question/answer format.

Question: Why choose 'Worldly Values' as the name of your blog?

Answer: Within the conservative, religious paradigm in which I was raised, the word 'worldly' carried extremely negative connotations. It was used to mean selfish, evil, and depraved. In reality the definition is:

world·ly 

1: of or relating to the human world and ordinary life rather than to religious or spiritual matters

2: having a lot of practical experience and knowledge about life and the world          

(Source: Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary)

Basically, I'm using the word 'worldly' to indicate that my focus is purely secular and not tied to any religious belief.

Question: Does this mean you are anti-theist?

Answer: No, not at all. I'm personally doubtful about the existence of God, but I appreciate the beauty and tradition religion can offer. I oppose discrimination or oppression in any form, including religion-based, but I am not opposed to religion itself. I continue to identify as culturally Christian and am married to a believing Christian. Our family attends progressive Christian services regularly and celebrates Christian holidays. Regardless of what my children believe later on, I feel that learning about faith and tradition will enrich their life. I also believe that a basic understanding of the Bible is a valuable part of a well-rounded education in the Judeo/Christian society in which we live. As they get older, I will neither attempt to persuade them to accept nor reject religion. It is a highly personal decision and I will support whatever they choose.

However, I view religion and morality as completely separate concepts, and I do not use religious justification for teaching values to my children. For one thing, values that hinge on religious belief can be easily rejected if belief falters. Furthermore, while religion can be useful as a means to explain life's mysteries and attach meaning to the human experience, as a moral compass it often goes awry. It is my hope that regardless of their future beliefs, that they will be thoughtful and open-minded individuals who don't shy away from asking difficult questions.

Question: What's your plan?

Answer: My children are both very young (ages 3 and 6) and I've found that picture books can be a fun way to introduce new topics and spark discussions with them. I've decided that each week we will read and discuss one new book about an important issue. Because Sundays seem to be the most convenient day for this, I jokingly refer to it as 'Sunday School'. However, it's completely unlike the Sunday school of my childhood. The style that I prefer to use when teaching my children is to ask thought-provoking questions that encourage them to consider matters and form their own conclusions. Each week I'll post a brief review of the book we covered and the resulting discussion with my children. If you find this a helpful resource, I'd love your feedback. Or if you have book suggestions for us, please leave a comment with your recommendations.

Question: What topics do you plan to cover?

Answer: I live in an extremely non-diverse community, so I'd like to expose my children to as much diversity through reading as I can. We'll read about various cultures and religions as well as topics such as race, gender issues, non-nuclear families, ableism, and other types of discrimination. I also plan to cover other important issues too, such as caring for the earth, fighting poverty, or other world issues. Basically, any issue I deem important or inspiring is fair game, provided I can find an age-appropriate children's book to introduce it.